“Life is either a daring adventure or nothing at all.”
Why People Resist Change
Everybody’s afraid of change. Everybody resists change. Whether it be as small as trying new food or as big as moving out of the country. People resist change to a certain extent and this is perfectly natural. But why is this? Why do our brains seemingly stop us from doing what we want to do? Why do people resist change? What can we do about it?
Fear of the Unknown
This is the number one reason why we face fear. Whenever we are faced with a decision where the outcome is completely unknown our brains don’t like it. In fact, it actually tries to protect us by triggering the same emotion that’s triggered if we jumped off a plane – Fear.
Our brains number one job is to protect us and keep us alive. Even at the expense of our happiness. This is why we fear the unknown. Our brains don’t care if we’re happy or not. Its main priority is to keep you alive and to reproduce. You can do both of these if you’re unhappy.
So what’s the main lesson here and how do you get over it? Well if you want to be happy you can’t let fear stop you. Fear doesn’t mean you can’t do it or you shouldn’t do it. It just means you’re stepping outside your comfort zone into the unknown – which is a good thing!
The main point here is to not listen to fear. Fear is just your brains’ way of saying “I don’t know if doing this will keep you alive nor do I think it will help you reproduce.” Always remember that you will certainly live if you leave your comfort zone and you will definitely have many other chances to reproduce.
How to Face The Fear of Change
Okay, we know fear is an emotion to be overcome but whenever we are faced with this fear our minds always play the ‘what if’ game.
“What if it doesn’t work out?”
“What if I fail?”
“What if I regret it?”
There’s no winner to this ‘what if’ game, nor is there a loser because this is the type of game that goes on forever (even longer than monopoly). When this happens to you, you really need to stop and ask yourself do I know these things will happen? At the end of the day, there’s really only one way we could know – it’s if we did it. Also, ask yourself:
“Whats the absolute worst that can happen?”
Whatever worst scenario you come up with first ask yourself if it is reasonably plausible for it to happen. If it is, then ask yourself “How would I recover?”.
Let’s use a common scenario to see this mindset in action. Say you want to quit your job and move out of state. This is the place you think you will love and you’re ready to make the plunge. You’re banking on the fact that you will find another job before your savings blows out. What common things will go through your head?
“What if I don’t find a job?”
“What if I end up not liking the place?”
So basically the fear is, for whatever reason when you move there you are forced to move back. So if this is the absolute worst thing that can happen how would you recover? Well, i’m sure you will have parents that still love you and will take you in until you find another job. I’m sure you have friends that will help. You can always move back to where you came from. I’m sure your old job will take you back if you did a good job. These are many solutions to a common problem. Try to find your own.
Often times this ‘what if’ mindset stems from low self-confidence in your own abilities. Sometimes you have to just make the leap not knowing whether or not you will succeed. Our brains naturally like to focus on the negative. Instead of focusing on the negative try to also see what if things work out in your favor? Do the pros outweigh the cons? You will find that you were so focused on what could go wrong you couldn’t see all of the benefits of what could go right.
Trust me, our brains always exaggerate the cons in order to protect us. At the end of the day do it for the experience. Don’t live with the regret of not knowing if you will succeed or not. Even if you fail you will learn so much in the process. Maybe you liked something and it turns out you didn’t. Now you discovered something about yourself. Even if you wasted a lot of money moving across the country and you hated it – But I bet you will appreciate where you come from a lot more. If you do it for the experience you realize you win no matter what. Always keep a positive mindset and also be rational when you make these life changing choices. It will make your decision a lot easier.
Have a great day!
What kind of things have you needed to change in your life and how did you do it? I’d really like to hear it in the comments below!