“I’m on the path to being someone I’m equally terrified by and obsessed with. My true self.
If you read my last article “What Is The Authentic Self” this article will tie in nicely as I will talk more about what is not you. The true self and the authentic self may sound like the same thing but they are actually separate things. The main difference is that the authentic self is somebody you strive for. He doesn’t exist yet. The true self does exist and always has existed. It is that person that is constant, never changing and is unaffected by external forces. These external forces include emotion, other people, and even time. When you find and connect with your true self these things don’t matter. You are just at peace with yourself. Abraham Maslow calls this being Self-Actualized, the Buddha calls it enlightenment. It is a state of total peace and awareness.
What Is The False Self
The opposite of the true self is the false self. Our bodies are basically just input-output machines, composed of a summation of blood vessels, nerves, tissue, and bones. We receive input from the outside world through our 5 senses and then output as emotion. Maybe the input is a bear charging towards you. Your brain receives this input and produces an output, most likely fear. This then causes an action (hopefully run). This is how most people live their lives. They receive input from the outside world, they get an emotion out of it and then they take action based on this emotion.
Especially today this input-output machine is always turning 24/7. We get stimulus everywhere from our phones to our TV. Unfortunately, most people think this input-output machine is them. They live to find the correct input in their life to produce the desired emotion such as happiness or excitement. This could be a car, money, sex, television, the list goes on. The problem here is that these emotions are temporary and are ultimately unfulfilling. This input-output machine is the false self. It’s the self that lives by stimulus and just seeks more stimulus to get that temporary high. Once the high goes away it just wants more.
How To Find The True Self
If we are living by this input-output machine and always seeking stimulus to find happiness what do we do?
You have to shut it down.
You have to shut the machine down and look deep within yourself.
You have to sit on a pillow, put your back against the wall, close your eyes and take deep, long breaths and shut down all your senses. That’s right, you need to meditate. You need to clear your mind. This is how you find the true self. Forget about all the input you received in the past, all the things you have to do, all the problems you might have. They don’t exist. There is no such thing as the future or present. Your false self is the only thing that gives these things meaning. The only thing that exists is the present. When you’re able to block out all that input, and all thought and just be at peace with yourself and the present – That’s how you find the True self.
A Quick Experiment
Before I ended this article I really wanted to tell you what it feels like when you connect with your true self. I didn’t want to tell you to walk towards this path of finding your true self without telling you what it felt like when you find it. This was something I didn’t really understand until I started meditating. To be honest, I really couldn’t describe what it felt like at the keyboard just because I have written this whole article and my brain was in logical mode. So I decided to go meditate quickly for about 15 minutes. I’ve been meditating for only a few months so I can’t say I’ve mastered it but I write this last section as soon as I finished my meditation and I can honestly say these are the things I personally felt.
- Completely present. This means completely free from thought.
- There is no voice in your head. In fact, you should even find it annoying when it comes back(which it will).
- You kind of feel like your floating on air.
- You have literally no idea how long you have been meditating for.
- You should feel like you can sit there for hours.
- The subtle noises I heard, were just noises I always know what they were because I didn’t let my brain think about it.
- If you set an alarm, the alarm will probably startle you.
These are just some of the things I felt. If you feel something like this you are probably on the path to finding your true self. If not then just keep practicing; your true self will appear! For the first month, I had a lot of trouble silencing the voice in my head. As you get better you start to notice how often it goes off and what it actually feels like when it doesn’t go off. As you keep practicing you will become better at connecting with your true self. You will be more in control of your emotions and ultimately be happier. So find a quiet place in your house, sit down and start meditating!
Have a great day!
Now that you know about the true self, the next step is to learn how to meditate! Now, I talked about it a bit above but I think this video explains it much better and really goes in depth. Check it out below!