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Extraversion vs Introversion
To start, I would like to just give a brief definition of what an introversion is and what an extraversion is. An introversion is somebody who is comfortable being by themselves. They do their best work alone. They gain the best energy alone. They often don’t enjoy loud, noisy environments. These environments are often overstimulating for these people.
As you can guess, an extraversion is a person who is the opposite of an introversion. This person is somebody who draws energy from other people and the environment. These people are the social butterflies that love to talk. These people are often under-stimulated when they are alone.
The Different Realities
So what’s really going on here? Why are introversion’s seemingly completely different than extraversions? The big difference here is what each person thinks what reality is. Let me explain.
For the introversion. The reason why this person likes to be alone and often feels over-stimulated by loud environments is because this person likes to be in his head a lot. This person lives in his own head and believes that reality is ultimately in his own mind. For introverts reality isn’t out there. It’s in their mind. That’s why introverts are often considered more creative and deep thinkers because they believe their whole reality to be in their head. They are always thinking, not talking
extraversions think differently. Extraversions believe the true reality is outside. They don’t care what’s going on in their heads they just go in and do whatever. They just talk. Extraversions don’t go through the process of interpreting anything in their own minds. They just sort of go with the flow. Their thoughts are secondary compared to the reality out there.
As an introversion it can take a second or two to gather up a response when a question is asked of us. This is because introversion’s try to think of the best response. They ask themselves, “Is the response I am about to give accurate to what I want to say?” When an introvert gives a response the introvert cares more about his or her own internal response, than what his own response actually was.
In contrast, an extraversion doesn’t care to think about what he’s going to say. He doesn’t run through what he’s going to say in his mind first. His thoughts are secondary. Reality is outside his mind to this person. So he just talks. Extraversions, as a result, don’t like to be alone because when you are alone it’s just you and your thoughts. An extraversion doesn’t like that, he’d rather be out there – Where he believes true reality is.
How to Change
Both introversion’s and extraversion’s have their advantages and disadvantages. Introversion’s can benefit from extraversion’s by not being in their own heads so much. Extraversions can be deeper thinkers by spending more alone time with their own thoughts. So if you are an extreme introversion I advise you to strive to be an extraversion. In contrast, if you are an extraversion I would advise that you strive to be more of an introversion. If you don’t know if you are an introversion or an extraversion there is a personality test called the Myers-Briggs test which will tell you whether you are an introversion or an extraversion.
With that being said, if you are an extraversion the best thing you can do to become more introverted is meditation. Extraversion often hate meditation because it forces you to be alone for a period of time. If you are an extraversion I just want you to be more self-aware of your own existence. Practicing mindfulness is also a good way to do this. This basically just means to pay attention to everything you do. If you are opening a door. Pay attention to the texture of the door. If you are washing your hands, pay attention to the way the water flows down your hands. Just pay attention to these things and start to be more aware of your own individual reality.
If you are an introversion trying to be an extraversion. The best thing for you to do is get out there and just start talking to people. Something like a bar or especially a club would really push your comfort zone. A club is extremely loud but if you want you can just go to a bar to start. Go over there and just mingle with people. You can even go alone. I would suggest you don’t drink too much as you will begin to use this as a crutch. But if you start going out there and mingle with people, especially in these high-energy environment you will definitely start to see a change. This is also an amazing way to absolutely destroy your shyness.
Remember that these changes aren’t supposed to be easy. If they are hard, or if you feel resistance you are doing it right. We can all learn from each other. So try these out and let me know how it goes in the comments below. Let me know whether you’re an introversion or extraversion! I look forward to hearing from you.
Have a great day!
Are you an extraversion or an introversion? Let me know in the comments below!