We do not remember days, we remember moments
Have you ever thought of some of the best moments in your life and you instantly feel a bit happier? Maybe you even smile. Have you ever thought of the most terrifying or embarrassing part of your life and felt pure terror? Our thoughts have a profound effect on our emotions. If we can change our thoughts we can consequently change our emotions.
One technique which comes from NLP is the concept of anchoring. Anchoring is when you relate a thought or emotion with some internal trigger. This way all you have to do is think of that trigger and that thought or emotion will be brought to the surface.
This technique requires some imagination but here is how you can go about doing this. Think of the happiest moment in your life. This moment should be so good it should make you smile. Now imagine this moment attached to a lever labeled “fun”. Now imagine pulling that lever. If you can’t think of such a happy moment – Or just simply haven’t experienced one then you can simply imagine yourself in what you think would be the happiest moment of your life.
This might seem silly but you will eventually come to associate that lever with a happy feeling. It’s the same thing as associating negative feelings and hatred with somebody. As soon as you see this person you get this rush of negative emotion. This person doesn’t even have to do anything. You simply associated negative feelings with this person because of what happened in the past. When you saw this person it triggered these negative feelings. The opposite occurs with your significant other – We are just trying to take advantage of this innate human biology and mimic it to our advantage.
If you are not a very imaginary person you can anchor an emotion to almost anything. Whether it be sound, a person, an object, a smell, taste, sign, symbol, the possibilities are literally endless. All you have to do is decide on the emotion you want to anchor and think of a time when you had that emotion. Then attach that emotion to an anchor which will help you bring you into that state.
If you are not feeling that emotion or worse yet, you are feeling a negative emotion then stop the anchor. It may be because you need to choose an anchor or your memory of that event was not strong enough. Choose another anchor or event and try again. You may want to imagine yourself flipping the lever throughout your day and put yourself into this state so that your brain can associate this event to this anchor.
Sometimes this can take a bit of practice but as I have said before our thoughts are what creates our emotions. To be able to instantly change our emotion to what we want by thinking of a happy moment is extremely powerful. This will not only make us happy but it will make people around us anchor these positive emotions to us on a subconscious level. As a result it will make us seem much friendlier, trustworthy, calmer or really anything you want people to think you are – If you anchor that feeling to get yourself to feel that feeling, you can in turn get others to feel the same way as well.
Have a great day!
In the video below Dr. Steve jones talks about a part of anchoring I didn’t get into here. How you can actually get other people to anchor a specific feeling or emotion to you. Very interesting stuff!
Which kind of feelings would you like to anchor? What kind of anchor do you think you will use? Let me know in the comments below!